Okay, I’ve a confession…
I looooove my therapist, and though I do know you’re not likely supposed to, I’m all the time attempting to ask inquiries to get to know extra about her. I’m so curious! For sure, she by no means takes the bait. One such instance:
Me: “How was your Thanksgiving?”
Her: “High quality, thanks.”
Me, determined for information: “What Thanksgiving meals do you want?”
Her: “Ahh, you already know, the classics.”
However you possibly can’t blame me for it as a result of she’s a genius. Throughout our periods, she’s supplied such considerate phrases of knowledge, I usually really feel like I’m listening to the reply to a riddle. The phrase she shared that has helped probably the most?
BOTH THINGS CAN BE TRUE.
Proper earlier than she mentioned this, I’d been describing a tense parenting scenario and stored interrupting myself to say, “However I actually, actually, actually, actually, actually love my children.” Lastly, she mentioned, “Joanna, it’s okay, you will discover parenting overwhelming AND love your children. Two issues might be true.”
Since then, the idea has come to thoughts many occasions. When my stepfather died, I used to be relieved that he may lastly relaxation AND heartbroken that he was gone. After we laughed at my mother’s home after his funeral, I spotted that we may have fun his life AND mourn his loss of life. At any time when I’ve spent a night or weekend alone, I’ve loved the quiet AND missed the noise of my youngsters. Once I assume again on new parenthood, I remembered desperately craving sleep AND feeling my coronary heart explode each time I checked out my child.
So! Have you ever ever been to remedy? What’s one thing useful a therapist has advised you? Keen to listen to these particular nuggets.
This music additionally makes me snigger:
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